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Put on your own mask first.

7/3/2017

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“Please place the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping small children or others who may need your assistance."

If you have ever flown, you have heard these instructions. The idea of helping myself before helping others goes against my grain. It probably goes against the grain of a lot of people, or they wouldn’t need to say this.

It is important to put your mask on first though, because if you lose consciousness, you won’t be any good to anyone.

The idea carries over into everyday life too. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so you need to refill your own cup before you can pour into others.
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It makes perfect sense.

I still struggle with it.

As children, we are taught to think of others first, and this is a good thing. The world is a better place when we think of others first. The problem comes when we stop thinking of ourselves at all. As moms, we tend to slowly stop taking care of ourselves in favor of taking care of our families.
As soon as we find out we are pregnant, we start sacrificing for our kids.

We endure nausea, backaches, swollen ankles, and various other discomforts. We give up sushi, coffee, and lunchmeats. If we get a cold we suffer through without the Nyquil rather than risk the health of our little passengers. We lose sleep and we worry. We tolerate being poked, prodded, and tested all to make sure our babies are healthy.

When it’s time for the birth, we go through hours of pain, needles, strangers up in our business, and sometimes even surgery to bring our babies safely into the world.

Once they’re here, we go through sore, leaky nipples, and sleepless night, and spend hours doing research all to make sure we are doing the best job possible in raising these little ones.

We make sure our kids have nice new clothes and clean hair, even if we haven’t showered in days and are wearing thrift store jeans and an old T-shirt

Of course, some of this is hard to fix. If finances are tight it is hard to justify or even afford that nice outfit for ourselves. Sometimes there just aren’t enough hours in the day to get a shower in or style our hair. There will be seasons where self-care is harder than at other times. That doesn’t mean we must give it up all together though. It is a matter of making it a priority.

I have learned that I am a better wife and mom when my needs are met as well, but I still struggle to do things for me. I am always worried about being selfish.

I can’t emphasize this enough:

TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF IS NOT BEING SELFISH!!!

We would all be better moms, wives, friends, employees, and bosses if we took better care of ourselves. It is ok to take time out for us. Here’s just a few ideas:
  • Take the time to eat a decent breakfast and lunch instead of grabbing whatever is quick and easy. It takes a little more time and effort, but you will end up with more energy and be in a better mood.
  • Take an extra-long shower from time to time.
  • Get a lotion you like and take the time to rub it into your arms and legs.
  • Give yourself permission to say no to unnecessary activities or obligations that will add stress to your life.
  • Before going to sleep at night, list 5 things you like about yourself. If you are struggling to think of 5, just think of 3 or even 1. Just make sure to end your day with positive self-talk.
  • Ask for help when you need it, and don’t feel guilty for it. Everyone needs help sometimes and you are giving someone else the chance to do something nice.
 
Sometimes it is just a matter of mindset. Giving yourself permission to take care of yourself, is sometimes half the battle.
 
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5/25/2019 09:52:23 pm

It is important that we are aware about the use of masks. Wearing them is essential so that we can avoid unnecessary problem than might arise. In the workplace, especially if you work in hospitals, it is important to wear a mask so that you can avoid getting sick. Even in companies and business programs, I believe that it is important that we wear masks at all times. I love that you have placed great emphasis on this very fact.

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