We’ve all seen the newborn diaper and formula commercials that show a beautiful mother who looks well rested, and has her long wavy hair pulled back in a pony tail, rocking her sleeping or smiling baby in a perfectly decorated and tidy nursery, while smiling and singing a lullaby.
Yeah, real life mostly isn’t like that.
Lets face it, adjusting to life with a new baby isn’t easy, and it often isn’t pretty. Your body is sore and feels different than it did 9 months ago. You are most likely exhausted, and haven’t had a proper shower in a couple days. Meals have become whatever is easy, or if you are lucky, casseroles brought by thoughtful friends. That sweet little newborn cries a lot, and sometimes you are at a loss on how to comfort him. Keeping the house clean and the laundry done have been put on the back burner, while you try to figure out a feeding schedule and how to fit in a nap. Then of course there are the visitors, who want to see and hold your precious new person. They sometimes come bearing gifts, not to mention noise, interruptions, and unwanted advice. They would be happy to hold the baby for you while you clean up or make dinner, but what you really want is to rest and bond with your baby while someone else worries about the day to day details.
This is where a postpartum doula comes in. This trained, compassionate professional can help make your postpartum time look a little more like the commercials. She comes to you on your schedule, and her only agenda is to help you in whatever ways you need most. She can be that extra set of hands to prepare meals, throw in a load of laundry, tidy up the kitchen or living room, wash the bottles or breast pump, and help your home feel a little more normal. She can answer questions about your recovery, and if what you are feeling and experiencing are normal. She can help you feel more comfortable with breastfeeding or bottle feeding and will never question your choices. You can feel confident leaving your brand new baby in her care while you take a shower or get a good nap in, because you know she is skilled and will respect your wishes for your child’s care. She can also be that listening ear if you need to talk about your birth experience, or the struggles you are having with adjusting to life with a new baby, all the while she will validate your feelings and never judging. And don’t forget, not only is she there for you, but for your spouse or partner as well, because dads need support too!
If this sounds like the kind of support you are wishing for, contact Hava Doula today and book your postpartum doula!
~Amber VanderJagt – Owner, labor and postpartum doula